How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You
Say you’ve met the man of your dreams, do you know what your next step ought to be? Read on to find out how to make a guy fall in love with you.
The problem with modern relationships is that it’s easier to interact, but it’s harder to build real connections. There’s an app for practically anything, and you can talk to almost anyone all over the glob at any time you want.
The problem is that these things don’t necessarily mean you’re building closer relationships. You’re interacting and networking, but most of us can’t go beyond the usual shallow chatter. When push comes to shove, you eventually realize that you don’t really know the people you’re constantly interacting with.
So when you do find the guy of your dreams, what’s the best way to build a meaningful connection and get him to fall in love with you?
More importantly, any guy worth his salt will probably have a few interested girls hanging around. You’ve got competition, and it’s not easy winning him over when there are so many girls vying for his attention constantly.
Your goal is to stand out, to be memorable, and to build a real significant connection. You’re not in this for a hook up or a casual fling. You want love, and that’s going to take a lot more effort.
Don’t worry, we’ve got this.
10 excellent tips on how to make a guy fall in love with you.
Tip #1: Always look your best.
If you think you can leave the house in sweats and unwashed hair, maybe think again.
As Coco Chanel said, “I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little — if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.”
It’s not that you have to undergo a complete overhaul just to be considered attractive. Everyone has their unique beauty, and to completely change yourself just to be beautiful for someone else really isn’t worth it in the long run.
Instead, the goal here is to play up your best features. If you’ve got great hair, wear it down! Beautiful lips? The right lipstick can make them stand out even more. It’s all about finding your strengths and highlighting them.
Even more important: you want to always be presentable. This is the key to being attractive. No one wants someone who looks and acts like a slob. Poor hygiene says a lot — not just about your physical appearance, but also your attitude and personality.
You want to look your best everyday, because as Chanel says, you never know when you’ll run into Mr. Right.
Tip #2: Be yourself.
Does this sound like it’s completely counter-intuitive to every dating tip you’ve ever seen? Honestly, it’s natural to want to push your best foot forward, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
You do want to offer a good first impression, just as when you’re trying to get a job. It’s definitely a necessary step when you’re still in the getting to know each other stage.
However, building a relationship on an entirely fake personality will not help either of you. In fact, you could easily end up weirding him out because at some point, the lack of sincerity will shine through.
Show him your best qualities, but don’t be scared to share your dorky side as well. Real relationships are built on showing him who you really are. If you’re smart, there’s no reason to act dumb just because that’s what popular culture says you have to do.
Besides, wouldn’t it be completely tiring to keep up a fake persona for the entire duration of your relationship?
Tip #3: Listen — and listen well.
Before he can fall in love with you, remember that you need to be a good friend to him as well. Many romantic relationships are built on friendship.
We’re not saying you need to hide your feelings and stay his platonic friend. However, you do need to build the foundation to make sure that the connection is strong.
One of the fundamental things you can do as a friend and as a future lover is to be good at communicating. Most men are forced to hide their feelings because of what society dictates. As such, they can find it hard to open up and talk about what they really feel.
Sometimes, they just need someone to vent to. Perhaps they had a bad day at work, or they’re having some problems with their family. Be their confidante!
Prove that you are trustworthy by listening and actually taking time to process what he’s saying. This is one thing you can’t fake, because you have to have genuine concern in order to earn his trust and his willingness to share. When he becomes your friend, you’re one step closer to love.
Tip #4: Laugh and have fun.
Honestly, just have a good time. Go into every interaction with a positive attitude. Laugh at his jokes, and share your own.
If you can’t have fun with him, you won’t have a happy relationship together. That’s simple! You should know that having the same sense of humor can go a very long way in keeping two people happy.
Don’t fake it, but do bring a positive energy to every interaction you have with him. Nothing shuts down a connection faster than negativity.
Tip #5: Don’t smother him.
Give the guy some breathing room! Some girls think that the best way to stand out from the crowd is to be up in his face all the time. Wrong!
Monopolizing his time isn’t cute, and he definitely won’t appreciate the endless attention. See, men need their time alone, too. A girl who’s always there can get annoying super fast, and his friends will resent you definitely.
Don’t act jealous, either. You’re not his girlfriend, and showing your green side isn’t going to win you any points. Instead, he’ll see this an absolute red flag and he’ll try to slowly move away from your advances.
You know how they say do unto others as you want others to do unto you? It applies here as well. You don’t want a guy getting all up in your business all the time, especially if you’re not official. What a turn off! Remember that when you’re dealing with the guy you’re interested in.
Tip #6: Be available, but not too much.
We’re not telling you to play mind games, just to be clear. Of course, when you’re into someone you want to spend all your time with them. That’s normal.
You can’t think of anyone else, you want to be with them all the time, and you spend every waking hour wondering when you’ll be together again. Again, still normal.
However, remember when we told you not to smother him? Hang back a little. Give him a chance to miss you, for crying out loud.
You don’t have to be constantly available, because that can reek of desperation. You don’t have to text back immediately when he messages you, especially if you’re actually busy. If you’ve ever been out with friends and one of them kept texting some guy the whole time, you’d know just how annoying that is.
Tip #7: Exude confidence.
Some women believe that men would be more interested if they somehow looked demure and shy. That’s really not a very reliable tactic these days, so might as well chuck that in the bin.
See, men these days are looking for a partner — not a doormat. You can’t get the man of your dreams by pretending to just agree with everything he says. He needs someone to have and hold, not some sort of echo chamber.
Lacking confidence isn’t sexy at all, and no man really enjoys spending time with someone with low self-esteem. Putting yourself down all the time isn’t cute at all, and there’s really no need to embrace this toxic mentality. You’re better than that, and you can get him to fall in love with you much more easily when you can genuinely love yourself.
So how do you show that you’re confident? Speak to him in a clear, direct voice. Be straightforward, be flirty. These are things you can do to further the connection and to show that you’re a strong, interesting character that can enrich their lives by association.
Tip #8: Make sure your body language is open and inviting.
The last thing you want is to make him think you’re completely closed off. You might not think you’re giving off that vibe, but have you checked your body language lately?
Keeping your arms crossed while talking to him, for example, shows that you’re not interested. Are you keeping your arms crossed because you’re nervous? That’s definitely not the message he’s getting, and he might assume that you’re just not into him.
Body language is crucial, because saying things outright might not be easy. Remember that you want to appear open and inviting, so stand facing him when you talk and try to maintain eye contact as much as possible.
Smile and exude a pleasant aura. This is key to showing your interest, and to giving off a vibe that you are comfortable in his presence.
Tip #9: Go on memorable dates.
You want to stand out from the crowd, don’t you? A lot of great guys have several women who are into them. If you don’t make an effort, you’ll never make a mark and your guy probably won’t even notice that you exist.
One way to make sure that he remembers you: go on a memorable date. Several memorable dates, to be honest. You want to build strong memories together, and getting coffee isn’t really that remarkable in the long run.
Find out what he’s into. Is he a fan of slam poetry? Does he like indoor climbing? Ask him out to a slam poetry competition or take him to your favorite rock climbing place. A unique bonding date is all you need to make sure you stand out from the pack.
To be honest, it’s not really just the location that makes a difference. Finding out what he’s into and making an effort to find something he’ll enjoy — that’s what really makes a mark.
Tip #10: Make him feel wanted, needed, and valued.
Hey, no need to play the damsel in distress. All you need to know is that it is human nature to want to be wanted.
You don’t have to go over the top — just make sure you make him feel like you actually need and want him in your life. Ask him for his opinion, and genuinely consider it! Seek his help when genuinely warranted.
We know it’s cool to be independent and to do things yourself, and that’s not a problem. However, when you do need someone’s assistance, consider asking him. It shows him that his input is valued and respected, and it’s a very important cornerstone for a real relationship.
Of course, if things don’t work out, don’t stress too much. Sometimes, relationships don’t work because you just aren’t meant for each other. Making a guy fall in love with you is one thing, but sustaining a long-term relationship takes much more work on both sides.
Just think of it this way: if things don’t work out, that means you just have to try again. It might seem disheartening, but it’s really an opportunity to find the one who’s really for you.
While waiting for a guy to fall in love with you, take the time to love yourself fully. Work on self-improvement and build your confidence. Being single isn’t a bad thing, it just means you have more love to lavish on yourself.
By the time Mr. Right arrives, you’ll be ready and able to fully commit to a beautiful and loving relationship.
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